Thursday, October 7, 2010

Me and the Love of My Life

In honor of today being No D-Day I decided to dig up an old blog post from before my blog was Sweet to the Soul.  It was a post about Why Romance Matters in Marriage.  Gives you a little glimpse of my hubby and I as a couple.  (italics where added for today)

"After 10 (12 years now!) wonderful years of marriage I would say that my husband and I have learned a lot in the romance department. Yet, it is one of those areas in life that we feel we will never really master. We have to keep fine tuning it and practicing to be better. We are constantly looking for ways to romance each other and make our marriage better.

One thing we do to keep the romance going, (but not often enough)(definitely not enough, still) is to go out for dinner.  One of our favorite restaurants is a place called SanChez. It is Cuban/Spanish food and everything is tapas. If you don't know what tapas are they are small portions of food that you share. We LOVE it there. It gives us a great opportunity to really bond and have some time to ourselves.

We also love to watch sports together. (this we still do A LOT! GO WINGS!!) Even though no serious talk goes on during a game we have a blast sharing sports facts and information. My husband probably tells me more facts and I ask questions, but it works! I didn't really care much for sports before I met my husband but I have always felt that it was important to take interest in the things that he likes. (not everything, because I still want to keep my own personality here but I have picked a couple that are most important to him) I'll tell you that I know much more about sports and cars then I would ever really care to know but for my husband, it is more then worth it. Plus, it is nice when you walk into a Auto store and the guys are amazed that you actually know what you're talking about!

There are also all the little things that we do for each other. I like to stick notes in my husbands lunch (I usually write them on a napkin, then I know he won't miss it!) (yep, still do this! ) I also pack his lunch pretty much everyday. When he worked 1st shift, it didn't matter what time he went into work ( his hours varied a lot) I would get up with him before he left for work and pack his lunch. (he works 1st shift again, but worked 2nd and 3rd shift hours for a while) I really like doing it and it makes me happy that he appreciates it. I randomly give him hugs and kisses throughout the day, especially when he least expects it.  He likes to randomly do a load of laundry and fold it, wash the dishes for me, gets the kids out from under my feet when he knows I really need a break for a few minutes, things like that.

When we were dating I was away at camp as a counselor for a summer. While I was gone her sent me a card and letter everyday! (I was there for 3 weeks!) (I still have them all too!) The last couple days of camp he sent over 30 pieces of mail to me! The cards weren't just signed either, he actually took the time to write a note in each one of them. It was one of the sweetest things he has ever done for me. He still randomly gets me a card once in a while.

Last but not least we love our date nights, and weekends away. (the weekend away thing hasn't happened in a couple years now.) Those are always the icing on the cake. Some of the things we love to do on date nights are; go downtown to some of the local bars, (my husband brews his own beer so that should explain that one!) picnics, walks in the park, we go to the beach and watch the sunset, movies, mini-golf, and double dates with other couple are a lot of fun too. We also love sight seeing and love lighthouses.

The one thing I would say is the most important is to just keep communicating with each other and let your spouse know when and if you need more romance. Or if you can't be that direct, hint at him (her)in subtle ways. My philosophy has always been that you will get out of a marriage, what you put into it."


Reyna said...

Heather!!!! I love this. You and your hubby really work hard at your relationship it is evident in this post. You both should take pride in is absolutely beautiful to see. I could use a few lessons in keeping the "magic alive" for sure. Thanks...and the last part is priceless..."you get what you put into it" - so true.


Heidi / D-Tales said...

This post makes me so happy for you. You seem to have found the key to a strong, healthy, long-term relationship. :)

Laura said...

What a beautiful and inspiring post. It sounds like you both work hard to make your marriage strong. We should all take lessons from you.


Wendy said...

I LOVE THIS! God bless your precious marriage. Beautiful post.


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